User blog:Wildheart21/Being the Alpha





FOCUSING ON YOUR GROUP Drama tends to be juicy these days with groups having beef with other groups, but you can't let yourself get swept up into it. Sure, as an ally you can know the situation and help but only if its good for YOUR group. If you realize that your group isn't ready for aiding another group in a war then you know that you shouldn't aid. You need to do what is best for your group and the members in it and if your allies are disappointed then so what? You know that you are doing the right thing for your group and fulfilling your groups' needs and not putting them through something that won't benefit the group.

FORMING RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEMBERS This is EXTREMELY important. Having a connection with your members is very good. As a leader, you have to protect, train and lead your members. I know some people may say 'well I don't have time to talk to every one of them' but honestly it should be a priority. Talking to your members and having bonds with them outside of roleplay will form loyal members. The members are what makes your group so when they aren't ok its the same way with your group. You should always pay attention to them and make sure they are ok. If they have something to tell you LISTEN to them! They are opening up to you and they trust you! When you don't form those connections they may feel uncomfortable and that's when they want to leave. Ask for their opinions and thoughts, and if you don't agree with them at least they know that you care and that you are paying attention to them. Don't make them feel uncomfortable either. If they explain to you that they feel as if they aren't ready to spar then don't make them do it. When you have time just speak with them and do some 1 on 1 training with them so they can feel more comfortable and feel more accepted into the group. It's all about showing them you care, with what you say and your actions as a leader.

DONT LET THE RANK GET TO YOUR HEAD I have seen leaders be extremely disrespectful towards people whether it be allies or members of their own groups. They think that because they are a leader that they have the authority to be disrespectful to others. As a leader, you need to PROVE that you are the right leader. Being rude and disrespectful to everyone just because you have a high rank will only get you, enemies. Leaders need to be firm and civil. As a leader, you have a right to be proud! You work hard to keep your group in check and pay attention to all the details, but that will never entitle you to be rude to others and if you think it does then step down smh.